Now, this is one subject many shy away from! I’ve often been asked what I think of the LGBTQ community and I’ve occasionally asked about people’s thoughts on this subject. Recently, on *#RCMellowWorld with LadyOMary, I asked what listeners would do if a loved one chose to come out as gay. Answers ranged from abandoning/disowning such a person, to taking him/her for deliverance, to outrightly killing the person. Well, here’s what I think and, no, you won’t find any reference to a religious book.
I must make it clear, first of all, that I have nothing against gay folks. It is your decision to read on…
I have worked with a few ‘gay’ people; unfortunately, I haven’t had the opportunity to do so with transgender folks but many can count the number of popular queer folks in our society and, no, I’m not mentioning names. I have come to realize that people naturally detest that which they do not understand, forgetting that curiosity is important in the development of every human. Do you understand what you claim to dislike so strongly, or you simply find it irritating because someone else does?
The lesbian and gay: Ever since I found out about the growing number of homosexuals in our community, I began to research on the subject. I understood that, while many believed that they’re born gay, this in actual fact is untrue. Science says that being gay is psychological but, like so many habits which we allow ourselves get used to, has been so solidly ingrained in the minds of the gay folks that they now live it and believe it to be true. The same way some multiple-rape victims bvictim that violence is necessary for sexual satisfaction or some believe that they are worthless, oftentimes turning to prostitution or some children born in violent homes continue the cycle… All of these are normal to the victims – until they get professional help.
The bisexual: We’ve always heard of how one cannot eat ones cake and have it, right? Whoever said that probably hadn’t heard of bisexual folks. Neither here nor there, these folks do both sides of the equation. It’s one thing to be confused about what side of the equation you are on, it’s another to play with a completely oblivious person’s emotions – this refers to the secretly gay who marry solely to procreate without considering the long term effects of their actions – including having to maintain a (sexually active) partner and the children born into the relationship. There’s a lot of danger in bisexual relationships; there’s no way we can forget that this is the main source of diseases to straight folks. Frankly, it’s much better to simply seek professional help.
The transgender: You may be thinking, “what of children who act like members of the opposite sex and/or require sex change at an early age?” Well, if I knew of sex change, as a child, I would have requested one too. I totally loved the idea of being a boy, I even pretended to be one sometimes. Believe it or not, my desire to be male only began to wane recently. Had I been exposed to sex change in my childhood, I may have been known as Anthony, today, and not Mary. Or, perhaps, Joseph.
Don’t get me wrong, there are exceptional cases. Rare situations in which the person actually needs the peace of choosing a sex, perhaps due to hormonal imbalance, etc… However, there are very few of such cases. Some children don’t have this problem yet may have been psychologically groomed to believe that they belonged to the opposite sex. A tomboy – as we had so many of them while growing up – might be so used to being referred to as boyish that she begins to see herself as such. That’s where the psychology thingy comes in. At school, a few young boys acted, walked, talked as females, yet they weren’t gay nor were they keen on transgender possibilities. Had they been raised to believe that their desire for all things feminine made them girls, wouldn’t they be so today? Same for the boyish ladies with the veeery deep voices. They may have been regretting their sex change now…
If you think your child likes to act in a way and you’re certain it might be psychological, give him/her time. Don’t go around talking about wanting the best for your child who might someday regret the switch. These things are tricky really but life itself – and parenting in particular – is especially challenging. A wrong step, a bad choice, and you may have ruined your child’s life forever. Both you and your child need professional help.
The queer. Well, you see them everywhere now. Guys dressed as women, especially. No, they don’t want a sex change, thank you, nor are they gay, no way! They just love looking and dressing like members of the opposite sex. Ladies could get away with theirs to an extent but, for the men, it’s usually quite obvious. Queer folks need help too. Many people need help, in fact, for one problem or the other… *deep sigh*
At the beginning of this article, I stated that I have nothing against gay folks or the LGBTQ community. I meant it. I have no issue with a fellow human being but I would rather the fellow human being respects me enough to not flaunt his/her sexuality in my face. I am not interested in what you choose to do behind closed doors so, please, don’t tell me about it. I do not support the act of homosexualism- let’s not even go into the many diseases which have been introduced into humanity by homosexualism (especially by the crop of folks who also do animals) – but I choose to respect the people involved. Who am I to judge your choices? However, I plead with you to not force innocent children into performing homosexual acts – by your words or by your deeds – they deserve the right to choose their sexuality when they attain adulthood. This also applies to pedophiles, who need help, but whom I still see as the lowest and the worst scum.
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